When should I have the conversation with my child?Of Georgia high school seniors who have tried alcohol, 35% had their first drink before they were 15 years old. This is why it is best for parents to consider talking with their kids about drugs and drinking starting around age 10 or 11. In today's society, there is a chance they have already been offered something illegal, or at minimum, their friends could be talking about it in potentially positive ways. They have probably seen movies or have listened to music that may have glamorized the use of drugs and alcohol. It is important that your child is getting the whole story.
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Setting the toneIt's important to understand, this can be an uncomfortable topic for teens to talk about with their parents. For your teenager to feel safe enough to open up about their thoughts on drugs and alcohol, it is important to help set the conversation tone early. As a parent, the calmer and more relaxed you are, the more effective these conversations tend to be. Your kid has a harder time staying cool in a stressful situation than you do because their brains aren't fully developed yer, so it is that much more important that you do.
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Having an open and honest conversation, asking questionsIf you do not have any credible evidence that leads you to believe your teen is using drugs or alcohol, it is important to stay away from making accusations based out of fear that your child may have already experimented with drugs and alcohol.
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Questions you can ask, and then positive statements
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Let your child know where you standKids who have meaningful conversations with their parents are less likely to go on and abuse drugs and alcohol. In fact, the number one reason kids choose not to use drugs or alcohol is that they don't want to disappoint their parents. While having this open conversation, you may encounter your child asking the question, "Did you ever use drugs?" Unless you have never tried drugs or alcohol, this may be a difficult question for you to answer. Some parents who have used drugs in the past choose to lie about it, but they risk their kids finding out, and thus losing trust that they are trying to build with their child. But you can turn this question into a teachable moment. This topic provides a great opportunity to speak openly about the challenges you faced as a teen, reasons why you may have chosen to drink or try drugs, how you learned of their harms, and consequences; and why you want your kids to avoid making the same mistakes you did.
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When to call a professionalIf you are concerned your teen has a problem with drugs or alcohol, it is best to consult with a professional. As a parent, you are emotionally involved with your child, which can create 'blinders' to their behavior, making it hard to determine whether or not they may need to seek help. Start by observing whether your child has experienced:
Granted, teens can go through phases exhibiting behavior such as these. But if they continue, or if your teen starts to experience negative consequences because of their behaviors, it is best to allow a qualified professional to give you their honest assessment. They will tell you from years of professional experience working with teenagers whether your child's behavior is 'just a phase'. If you are aware that your teen is using drugs and alcohol, please use our resources page. |
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